My Musings On Couples and Family Therapy

I was recently interviewed by 2 impressive Podcast hosts for their show, "Talking Therapy." We discussed my experiences as a family and couples therapist.

Here’s the link:

http://traffic.libsyn.com/talkingtherapy/Talking_Therapy_Ep._3_Family_Therapy_with_Jon_Kramer_LCSW.mp3

You can also get it at iTunes here: 

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-therapy-podcast/id987607555?mt=2

Parents Take Note: Good News for Children and the Anxiety of Choosing a College

     Parents of college age children, take a deep breath!  Frank Bruni has written an excellent article about the pervasive anxiety associated with getting our children into a top 10 college or university.  Attempting to gain admission to a top 10 school is a merciless task.  And there is some silly notion that not gaining this admission is akin to failure.  Refreshingly, Bruni shares in his piece, "it is statistically easier today than it was 30 years ago for an American high school senior who seeks admission to one of the 100 or even 50 most highly regarded colleges to gain it."  This is great news for us parents to remember and to remind our children.  http://time.com/author/frank-bruni/

Lets look up. Outside ourselves. It is a good way to quiet the inner critic that tries to make us feel bad.

Step on the gas pedal of change. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Sometimes the sunlight of understanding sits on the other side.

Enjoy the view. Even when it is not always that clear.

 

 

Making Meaning Out Of Infidelity

The film "Every Day" by Director Richard Levine highlighted for me 2 important ideas. First, resentments usually settle in when we choose not to express ourselves or our needs. Instead, we keep them to ourselves, they inevitably fester, and lead to us to emotional isolation. An alternative path might be to strike a position of transparency in the face of our tendency toward isolation and withdrawal. Second, this film addressed the complexities of infidelity. Usually infidelity is born out of a brewing emotional disconnect which has been going on well before the infidelity occurred. All too often our impulse is to make meaning out of infidelity in victim-villain terms. From this place, coming to understand what may have happened and even transforming the crisis is very difficult.