Friday, September 17, 2010
Couples and Family Therapy is often about asking a loved one to make certain changes on our behalf. I believe there are 2 significant parts of "the asking process:" how we ask (as opposed to what we ask), and paradoxically in separating ourselves from the expectation that the change request will be honored. The more we ask for change without an attachment to the outcome, the greater the chance it will occur.
Thursday, September 16, 2010
I recently read a well developed article about sibling relationships in the August, 2010 Psychology Today Magazine (http://www.psychologytoday.com/) by H.E. Marano. Marano describes how this important family relationship, including sibling positioning, shapes who we are and the people we are attracted to as adults. I have a copy of it in my office.
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
I just returned from a drive to Big Sur. This is a good trip to clear one's mind, calm the nervous system, and for couples to reconnect. The enormity of nature can put one's problem-concerns in perspective. Good "therapy" but best to leave the kids at home for this one.