Friday, September 9, 2011

Making Meaning Out Of Infidelity

The film "Every Day" by Director Richard Levine highlighted for me 2 important ideas. First, resentments usually settle in when we choose not to express ourselves or our needs. Instead, we keep them to ourselves, they inevitably fester, and lead to us to emotional isolation. An alternative path might be to strike a position of transparency in the face of our tendency toward isolation and withdrawal. Second, this film addressed the complexities of infidelity. Usually infidelity is born out of a brewing emotional disconnect which has been going on well before the infidelity occurred. All too often our impulse is to make meaning out of infidelity in victim-villain terms. From this place, coming to understand what may have happened and even transforming the crisis is very difficult.